Why do I ask so many questions

At around the age of three, children discover the desire to ask questions. Moving from talking and telling to asking questions is another milestone in your child's development. Those who are curious want to learn, experience and know. Anyone who asks questions begins to understand connections and challenges others to deal with them. Children can be tireless at this stage. Always having an answer ready, often umpteen times to the same question, requires a lot of patience. If you ever run out of them, remember that dialogue with your child is extremely important. Satisfying one's curiosity means maintaining and encouraging one's imagination and interest in the world. Try to give your child understandable, truthful, age-appropriate answers.

Playing with the why questions

But why does your child ask the same question over and over again? It may be that it gives him a feeling of security when the answers to certain questions are always the same. For many children "why questions" are a game, and playing is something enjoyable, even if it is always the same. But maybe it doesn't exactly understand your answer. Like Jana, for example, who is looking at a picture book with rabbit stories. When asked what a rabbit eats, the mother replies that all rabbits eat grass. Jana now asks each other rabbit in the book whether he also eats grass. And the mother patiently says: "Yes, all the rabbits eat grass" - until she realizes that her daughter does not yet fully understand the word "all".

Fathom things

Children want to get to the bottom of things: “Why is it raining?”, “Why is there clouds?”, “Why is the sun shining?”. This is how children gather knowledge. Much of what seems natural to us and we hardly notice or question anymore, becomes exciting and interesting again through the child. During this time, your girl discovers - perhaps while peeing or bathing - that she is “different” from her little friend, or vice versa. Curious about what the child is like, they want to know exactly what it looks like and how it differs from the opposite sex. The child's questions about his or her body and sexuality should also always be answered simply and clearly - in a way that the child can understand.

This text is an excerpt from the chapter «Why? What for? How? - The age of questions »in the letter from parents 22 Your child is two years and nine months old. In the print edition of this letter to parents, topics such as “Children love children - to play and to argue”, “Supplementary family care” and “The toddler on the road” are the main themes.