What is preventing you from being eligible?

Fear: when is it justified?

That is a difficult question that cannot be answered in general. It doesn't help us either to ask when fear is normal. When we say fear is normal we usually mean that in this situation most people are afraid.

The fact that other people are also afraid in this, however, does not indicate a healthy fear, because it simply means that these people all have the same assessment of "danger" in the situation. Fear is an individual decision. Everyone has to ask himself to what extent he is want to be afraid in certain situations.

Fear is appropriate if it alarms us and makes us just as efficient as we need it to be in order to behave appropriately in the situation. It is abnormal if it panics us so that we are no longer capable of meaningful action, or if it does not alarm us enough.

The effect of fear can be represented in an inverted U-function: If the fear is too weak, we are not alerted enough and made efficient. If it is too strong, we cannot respond appropriately either. A medium level of excitement leads to optimal performance. Then we are vigilant and we come up with sensible strategies for solving the situation.

If we are afraid of situations that are not associated with real danger, such as a fear of a spider or a bird, the fear is pointless. However, we can still choose to live with a "senseless" fear, as long as it concerns fears of situations that rarely occur in everyday life and do not greatly restrict our lives, we do not necessarily have to overcome them.

If we are afraid of situations that involve real danger but are unlikely (plane crash, fire), there is also no point in being afraid.

If we are afraid of situations that involve dangers that we cannot control and control (death, old age, serious illness), it is up to us to consider whether we want to generate fears beforehand.

Personally, I assume that fear makes sense if it alerts me to behaviors that will help me avoid real likely dangers. If there is nothing I can do to avoid a possible danger, fear has lost its function. Then personally, I will have to work as hard as you to get the fear under control.

When fear puts shackles on us and narrows our lives, makes us sick and takes away the joy of life, it is advisable that we do something about it. If fear prevents us from achieving our goals and from being who we want to be, it is recommended that we do something about it. We can and must decide for ourselves when to consider fear useful and when not.