What does a reading man do

Reading men are better lovers

06.02.2015 – 15:36

Exchange Association of the German Book Trade

Frankfurt am Main (ots)

The journalist and author Paula Lambert is known for her relaxed approach to sex. As a columnist, the "expert on all too interpersonal" deals not only with what is happening between the sheets, but also with the communication and relationship behavior of the sexes.

The Caution Book Initiative! of the Börsenverein des Deutschen Buchhandels asked her: What makes the book an ideal gift for Valentine's Day on February 14th? Does love only go through the stomach or can the head also play along? Your answers make you want to visit a bookstore. And that's just the adult part.

Individuality is the key. Why is a book such a good gift for a loved one?

Paula Lambert: The perfect gift is hard to find. It has to gently caress the intellect of the recipient, meet the taste and make a good impression. It shouldn't be too expensive and it should also be handy, because nothing is more unpleasant than gifts that are standing around in the room. Of course it would be smart to give a piece of furniture as a present, but it leaves the intellect out and does not necessarily caress the soul. Stockings are nice and practical, but a little unemotional. In this respect, there is only one thing that meets all demands, and that is a book. It's also too nice: you can inspire the recipient with new thoughts, immerse them in a world or challenge them. If you are not happy about a book, you have no heart. I always find it suspicious when someone says "I don't read". Why not? There is little that makes the imagination swing that much!

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Paula Lambert: At least it's tricky if a man doesn't have a single book in his apartment. How much depth can someone like that have? Is he enthusiastic, ready to dive into other worlds? Does he have the talent for imagination? Or is he someone who is basically very at home on the surface? Depth, enthusiasm, imagination - these are all things that a good lover has to bring with him. Less clever people may be more interested in the drive discharge itself, but inseminating others is really no great art. The art form of the good lover is similar to that of a good novel: He has to awaken a magic in the other that is greater than reality. And smart men are more capable of doing that. So I say bluntly: Yes, absolutely.

Seduction is an art form. Does language belong to it?

Paula Lambert: Someone - I think it was Roger Willemsen - once said: I'm not beautiful, I have to willingly chat to women. Language has a great seductive power. I don't know if the following has happened to you before: Sometimes you meet people who, objectively, are particularly beautiful from the outside, with whom everything is just right. And then they open their mouths, start babbling a lot of nonsense, and then they get uglier and uglier until you don't want to look at them anymore. Exactly the same works the other way around. A man is perfectly able to seduce a woman with just what is said. Of course, he must be mentally capable of doing this. All in all, that's all of the great art. Making someone willing with beauty is easy.

Flowers can speak. But you can talk to each other about a book - why is that good for the partnership?

Paula Lambert: Every partnership is based on the same cement: good communication. Exchanging content is always a factor that leads to a deeper bond. Couples who do not have mutual communication are always unhappy. There are no exceptions.

Just the name or is there more? How personal can a dedication be?

Paula Lambert: That naturally depends on how well you know them. "For Marie, in friendship" is quite banal, "For Luis, the little macho, thank you for a great night" is perhaps a bit too much to leave it standing around on the bookshelf. The same applies to insults, including those that are lovingly meant and, above all, judgmental. Liar baron, sperm donor, neighborhood slut, flatulence problematic, etc. - such dedications are not advisable. Better something that is meant lovingly and honestly. "For you the most beautiful book of the summer, because I know that you will enjoy it!" or something like that is nice to read when you pick up the book again later. Or "You are my very best friend!" and "I really appreciate you!" It should just be something that puts a smile on the face of the recipient.

Reading to each other - great moment of intimacy or off-putting?

Paula Lambert: Absolutely! Reading books appeals to women even more than watching sex films together. This is also a sensual exercise to get each other in the mood. With many people it is the case that they are quite exhausted in the evening and actually don't feel like it anymore. Three or four crisp lines can turn things around pretty quickly!

Can a book be the start of an exciting Valentine's Day evening?

Paula Lambert: Because it appeals to all the senses, the right book is a key to sexual happiness. I don't understand why so few people read to each other! It is a beautiful, very connecting experience that creates lasting memories. I think this is a great combination.

Press material to download: The complete press release including a printable press photo is available at: http://ots.de/MSWrG

About the Caution Book! Initiative:

Caution book! is a nationwide initiative of the entire German book industry, which started in March 2013 at the Leipzig Book Fair. The Börsenverein des Deutschen Buchhandels e.V. is responsible for the campaign. is to get people excited about books and to strengthen the local book trade. www.vorsichtbuch.de | www.facebook.de/vorsichtbuch

Press contact:

Exchange Association of the German Book Trade e.V.
Claudia Paul, Head of Press and Public Relations
Telephone +49 (0) 69 1306-293, email: [email protected]

Thomas Koch, press officer
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