Can we live a life without depression?

European Depression Day on October 4th Depression: When Love Alone Doesn't Help

Since Nils can remember, his mother has been depressed. Not only she, the whole family suffered from the disease. For months his mother disappeared into the unknown. That's how Nils perceived it as a child. Every time he thought his mother would never come back. Today he knows that she was in the clinic. Before Teresa Enke knew what depression really meant, she firmly believed that she and Robert would make it with love. Until the famous goalkeeper took his own life in 2009.

Time of fears and tough decisions

When the partner, the parents or the siblings get depressed, your own life is also out of joint. Depression triggers helplessness and deep fears, but also often calls for tough decisions: Do I stay or do I go? Can I keep the connection with the loved one? Am I neglecting my own life or am I finally taking charge of it?

Fight against a widespread disease

After a failed relationship, Nils finally wants to lead his own family with the newborn child through a life without abysses. Teresa has founded a foundation to fight the widespread disease depression, which has just developed a virtual reality project with which you can experience what it looks like in the head of depressed people. At the same time, she is preparing for the tenth anniversary of Robert Enke's death on November 10, 2019, and reliving the feelings of yore.

From a medical-therapeutic point of view, depression is a serious illness that affects the thinking, feeling and acting of those affected, is associated with disorders of body functions and causes considerable suffering. People with depression can rarely get rid of their depressed mood, listlessness, and negative thoughts on their own.
(Source: German Depression Aid Foundation)

What relatives can do

When asked what relatives can do, Teresa Enke said in an interview with MDR aktuell that it wasn't that easy. Alarm signs are sleep disorders or when someone is no longer eating properly, express feelings of guilt and worthlessness or have a completely negative and pessimistic future perspective. On the other hand, the "acting of those affected" is almost perfect in the end:

"In the end, I didn't know whether he (Robert Enke, editor's note) is better or not. Especially when someone who was doing very badly suddenly says: 'Wow, I'm going alone today come on, I'll go out and enjoy the sun! ' - These can also be warning signs after a long depression. You have to take a closer look to see if that could be the case because he made the decision for himself not to want to live anymore and now feels like he has been liberated. " Relatives cannot replace the therapist, warns Teresa Enke: 'As sad as it is when someone really intends to commit suicide and suicide, it is difficult to stop them. But there are these many stages before that that one should go in the company of a therapist. Without it, relatives cannot do it. The responsibility is too great ".

Nicole Koburger also confirms that it is important to address the disease or its signs. She is a psychologist and volunteers at the Leipzig Alliance against Depression. She also points out that the disease can affect anyone and that it is important to provide appropriate help quickly in order to possibly save lives: "Many people who get out of the disease or who survive a suicidal crisis report that they are helped that someone spoke to them. Or that they would have liked someone to speak to them. It is wrong to think that this leads to suicidal thoughts. It is a relief to be told empathetically: 'I am watching you have changed you. What's going on? Can I help you? '"

Your family doctor or a counseling center can help you recognize depression as a serious illness. The telephone counseling can be reached under the numbers: 0800/111 0 111 and 0800/111 0 222.

The German Depression Aid Foundation offers those affected and their relatives a wide range of information and assistance, such as the Depression discussion forum and the free Germany-wide Depression information telephone: 0800/33 44 533.
Mon, Tue, Thu: 1:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.
Wed, Fri: 8:30 a.m. - 12:30 p.m.

German Depression Aid Foundation
Goerdelerring 9, 04109 Leipzig
Tel .: 0341/22 38 74 0
Fax: 0341/22 38 74 99
Email: [email protected]

Office Frankfurt / M .:
German Depression Aid Foundation
c / o University Hospital Frankfurt / M.
Clinic for Psychiatry, Psychosomatics and Psychotherapy
Heinrich-Hoffmann-Str. 10, 60528 Frankfurt