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Living in the now through mindfulness: Why you shouldn't always evaluate everything

In everyday life we ​​are constantly evaluating everything possible - other people, situations or things. Graduate psychologist Sara Schneider explains why it is important in mindfulness to practice “not evaluating” and to look at something neutrally from time to time.

When we read about mindfulness, which has recently been happening more and more frequently and in a wide variety of media, we usually find the warning against evaluations. It almost always means that one should practice non-judgment in order to be able to adopt a mindful attitude. This approach comes from the Buddhist tradition of mindfulness and certainly has a certain plausibility.

Nevertheless, many practitioners “fail” precisely because of this request not to evaluate. It happens very often that people tell me, “I don't manage to be mindful, I keep evaluating. That's wrong. "Or even:" I can't do that, it's too difficult for me. "

Mindfulness means learning to accept

Mindfulness is just not difficult, because it lets happen what is happening at that very moment - and sometimes we just evaluate. It would be careless not to want to do this, because then we would pursue a goal (namely not to evaluate). And ultimately we blame ourselves if we fail to achieve that goal. We then evaluate ourselves negatively because we evaluate.

We evaluate quickly and often in everyday life (as well as in exceptional situations). We usually use standards such as “right - wrong”, “beautiful - ugly”, “good - bad” and so on. Reviews are often useful and necessary. How should you decide which shoes to buy without evaluating? How do you get an opinion on a book, a piece of music, etc.?

Sometimes, however, evaluations lead to premature loss of contact and a closure to the present moment with all its facets. Then mindfulness is no longer possible, as it implies an open attitude towards what is currently happening.

Mindfulness means openness instead of judgment

In the mindfulness attitude, it is important to recognize such spontaneous evaluations and to remain in open contact with things, people and processes, i.e. to continue to feel, perceive, describe what is happening, regardless of whether it is pleasant for us or is uncomfortable. That is the deeper meaning of mindfulness.

Experience has shown that this small but subtle difference is a relief for many in their practice.