Are you unhappily married

Unhappily married, one child and in love with another

byKatzenfrau3 on May 13th, 2012 at 9:47 pm
Oh, I didn't think that answers would come soooooo quickly. Thank you for that.
I'll try to go into everything:

In the event of a separation, I would of course not forbid my husband to have contact with our son - on the contrary, he is a great dad.
I'm a divorced child myself, a two-time child, and my mother used us children as leverage and that was terrible.

We don't fight that much. It's just like with siblings. Sex is just part of it for me, I can't do without it. That can't be all.
I don't know where my head is at the moment.
Actually, I primarily want to save my marriage. After all, I married him once. But I've already tried a few things, and as I said, I told him straight away that I was unhappy, but somehow nothing happened to him.
Maybe he's too sure of me?
Oh, why does life always have to be so complicated?

byBBebiam 05/13/2012 at 11:13 pm
i don't think that what will change in the long run if you bring up your problem.
in the beginning, yes ... but not in the long run.

the best thing to do is to pull it off, then you will be happier 1. because you have a man who gives you what you need and 2. because you were a strong woman

byKatzenfrau3 on May 14th, 2012 at 7:56 am
Well, the fact is that I didn't just say, "I'm unhappy, do something about it". He will already be told exactly what does not suit me. I keep suggesting going somewhere as a couple. When our son stayed at his friend's recently, I really wanted to see this Harry Potter actor's new film. Reaction: “Oh, does that have to be? The seats are so uncomfortable. Then there will surely be someone sitting behind me again who chats the whole time. ”The end of the story was that we stayed at home again and watched TV. It always works like that. Whenever I go away, it's always alone or with a friend.
Of course, I feel obliged to my child to give everything to save these paths. I know myself how children feel in such a situation. If my son wasn't around, I would have split up a year ago. It's not that we quarrel all the time, so the situation here has become unbearable. Of course we fight too, but that's normal. It's just that the love that was definitely there has disappeared secretly, quietly and quietly. And that has nothing to do with the other, it hasn't just been this way since last week.
by Luna321 on May 14, 2012 at 11:56 am
Your marriage has nothing to do with being a dad. If you are no longer happy in the relationship and your role as it is, then you have to change something. Listen to yourself. Your gut knows what to do. And please ... NOTHING is worse for a child than a mom who is unhappy to give the child an artificial situation that doesn't make anyone happy. Children are not stupid.
byKatzenfrau3 on July 10th, 2012 at 1:44 am
Hello ladies,
I'm sorry that I didn't get in touch, but soooooo much has happened:
At Pentecost, I was on a short vacation with my husband and son, it had been planned for a long time. Relatives of ours were also there. Since I had complained about his alcohol consumption, he didn't drink anything that weekend, but was in bed every evening at 8:30 a.m. instead of sitting with the rest of us (not all of us then drink alcohol).
Back home, he continued to drink - not as much as before, but still regularly 6 bottles of beer every Saturday (am I too sensitive if I find that too much?].
There is still no tenderness, he is rather bitchy and we argue. He says he wants to stay with me.
A little more than a week ago I saw the other guy again at a village festival where I was alone again because my husband didn't feel like doing something like that. In between we only had sporadic contact because I wanted to take care of my marriage. It sparked without end, he kept touching me and it came as it had to come ... we snogged, snuggled and finally slept together and it was soooooo nice. He has everything that I have missed in my husband for a long time.
I've made up my mind to split up with my husband. I just don't know how best to do it. I'm scared he's freaking out, he's pretty choleric.
Have you got some hints for me?