American scientists have found that the pursuit of financial success as a way to show your importance associated with a sense of loneliness, and this relationship is governed by the lack of sense of independence. People who base self-esteem on how much they earn, feel less independent, and feel constant pressure, which leads to the fact that they communicate less with others, and feel more lonely you write the scientists in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Self-esteem — that is, the subjective evaluation of one’s significance in the world — can be determined by a variety of factors: academic achievement, popularity, and according to their own morals and independence — including financial. While some of the factors to feelings of self-worth will still be the determining factor: in other words, a person who believes that his success in life and satisfaction to her in the first place depends on how much money he has, will be recorded on their earning.
As with any fixation, the concentration of their own sense of importance around financial success can have a number of negative consequences. The reason for this is quite simple: in order to earn a lot, need a lot of good work — and it takes a lot of time and effort. They, in turn, may miss out on other important things, in particular, to communicate with loved ones — so you can get the feeling of loneliness.
Of course, this is only a theory — albeit a fairly logical — and the connection between earning money and the feeling of loneliness it is necessary to check empirically. It is decided to make psychologists under the leadership of Deborah ward (Deborah Ward) from the state University of new York at Buffalo. In their first study involved 345 people: they had to fill out an online survey. It included statements on different themes: its dependence on financial success (“My self-esteem depends on how much money I earn”), a sense of time pressure (“I think, the day has not enough hours”), assessment of their independence (“I feel I am under pressure from others”) and satisfaction with social relationships (“I don’t feel any connection with most people”). In addition, participants also provided information about how much time over the past week they spent communicating with colleagues, family and friends, and how often they feel lonely.
As expected, concentration on financial success in fact was associated with less satisfaction with social ties and greater sense of loneliness. However, the relationship was not direct: the participants who were recorded on the earnings significantly more (p < 0.001) was exposed to temporal pressure that led to social dissatisfaction — even despite the fact that the connection between the feeling of lack of time and how much time the participants spent with loved ones, could not be found (p = 0,41).
In turn, the model correlation is based on individual independence (and not time pressure) as the main regulatory parameter that indicates that the desire to Express himself through financial success can also limit and connection with other people, and to neutralize the pleasure of it just through the accompanying sense of independence. This model scientists have reproduced in the second study — it was attended by 940 people — which used the same surveys.
To reinforce the results obtained and to assess their ecological validity, in the third study, the researchers conducted the same survey on a different sample of participants (246 people) daily for two weeks, so they were able to compare not only the differences between the participants, but also the variability within the responses of each of them over time. The obtained results also correlated significantly (p < 0.001) with estimated prior to this model.
Having examined the model, the researchers came to the conclusion that the pursuit of financial success and expressing yourself through it is closely connected with lack of feeling of self-independence, that is, with the feeling of pressure. This is quite logical: the desire to earn more money (at least at a young age) largely comes from the desire to become independent from their parents (not only financially, but emotionally), and inability to perform makes him fixate on money even more. The lack of sense of independence, in turn, can lead to the fact that it is trying to achieve starvation — limiting communication with other people. This, in turn, leads to frustration in communicating with loved ones and, as a consequence, the feeling of loneliness.
Many lonely people are striving to get rid of your condition — to find those people, socializing with which they will be fully satisfied. To do this, however, may not be so simple — largely because the feeling of loneliness, as shown by American scientists two years ago, makes a person to expand the boundaries of personal space and not let the other close enough to his distance.